Comments on: Thursday Thirteen Questions http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/ Swedish humor travel in the nature with useful odditys, love, food, photo Wed, 01 Nov 2006 08:23:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: Danielle http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5427 Sat, 26 Aug 2006 19:59:31 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5427 There's always a reason people act the way they do--the hard part is figuring out that reason. The even harder part is fixing the reason, because its usually not good. Continuing to love is the easiest part and love can eventually erode all barriers! Have a great weekend! <strong>Lifecruiser: Well, time will tell if the situation is going to be any better :-)</strong> There’s always a reason people act the way they do–the hard part is figuring out that reason.

The even harder part is fixing the reason, because its usually not good.

Continuing to love is the easiest part and love can eventually erode all barriers!

Have a great weekend!

Lifecruiser: Well, time will tell if the situation is going to be any better :-)

]]> by: AmandaF http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5368 Fri, 25 Aug 2006 13:24:04 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5368 Good questions. Very diffcult to answer expecially when they are surrounded by people vulnerable to them <strong>Lifecruiser: Yes, they sure are. A tricky situation indeed. But we'll take one day at the time, that's all we can do. </strong> Good questions. Very diffcult to answer expecially when they are surrounded by people vulnerable to them

Lifecruiser: Yes, they sure are. A tricky situation indeed. But we’ll take one day at the time, that’s all we can do.

]]> by: Christine http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5361 Fri, 25 Aug 2006 04:00:01 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5361 I've learned to love and accept them for who they are, and not their behavior. It's the behavior that's unacceptable not the person. Ultimately it is the person's choice about how they live their life. Living my life and taking care of my children is my priority. I'll help them to a point, but if it affects my family negatively I distance myself. I do believe people can change.At least I'd give them a chance or two. Miracles may happen, but I'd accept the fact that it might not. You never know. I feel it would be a shame to turn my back on them and miss it when they do turn their life around. Then I would say I would be there for them if they decide to change, but that their behavior is unacceptable, and I choose not to be around it. I've had ceartain times in my life with family in some of these situations. I don't know if I could handle all of these, but I ignore the drama and try to stay out of it all cost. I didn't mean to ramble if I did, but I've been trying to find the answer to these questions too. You put it so well, that there is always more to the story, than we can say! I know what you mean. Thanks for visiting my T13, I'm glad you did, I enjoyed reading everyone's comments. <strong>Lifecruiser: Well, I suspect we'll never turn our back on this person completely, just like you said, if the person change it's another matter. But I can't see that change coming now at least. For now we're just very firm against that person and protective against the persons around this person that is affected of the behaviour.</strong> I’ve learned to love and accept them for who they are, and not their behavior. It’s the behavior that’s unacceptable not the person. Ultimately it is the person’s choice about how they live their life. Living my life and taking care of my children is my priority. I’ll help them to a point, but if it affects my family negatively I distance myself. I do believe people can change.At least I’d give them a chance or two. Miracles may happen, but I’d accept the fact that it might not. You never know. I feel it would be a shame to turn my back on them and miss it when they do turn their life around. Then I would say I would be there for them if they decide to change, but that their behavior is unacceptable, and I choose not to be around it.
I’ve had ceartain times in my life with family in some of these situations. I don’t know if I could handle all of these, but I ignore the drama and try to stay out of it all cost. I didn’t mean to ramble if I did, but I’ve been trying to find the answer to these questions too. You put it so well, that there is always more to the story, than we can say! I know what you mean.
Thanks for visiting my T13, I’m glad you did, I enjoyed reading everyone’s comments.

Lifecruiser: Well, I suspect we’ll never turn our back on this person completely, just like you said, if the person change it’s another matter. But I can’t see that change coming now at least. For now we’re just very firm against that person and protective against the persons around this person that is affected of the behaviour.

]]> by: Raggedy http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5360 Fri, 25 Aug 2006 02:26:07 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5360 Steer clear of those kinds of people.. Great TT My TT is up Have a wonderful Thursday! <strong>Lifecruiser: I usually does, but this is a close relative so it isn't that easy :-)</strong> Steer clear of those kinds of people..
Great TT
My TT is up
Have a wonderful Thursday!

Lifecruiser: I usually does, but this is a close relative so it isn’t that easy :-)

]]> by: Lisa http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5359 Fri, 25 Aug 2006 01:17:21 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5359 Some pretty deep questions there Mrs. Life(notTom)Cruise(r). Especially when they are related to you. Here's what I know about myself: I know I can only control what I do. So, if they're busy messing up their life, that is their free will to do so. Your choice, however, is to decide how much of it you will allow into your own life. And that is YOUR free will at work. When I pray, I ask for whatever is in their highest good to take place. Who knows? Perhaps they have a lesson they are to learn through those behaviors. That is not for us to know. So, I ask for whatever is their highest good and then detach from it. A greater intelligence than I can see all and help guide wisely. Thanks for stopping by Snarkypants! And I hope things work out for you. <strong>Lifecruiser: LOL. Well, it's possible that's it, but it's still very difficult to see the person do this kind if huge mistakes that can effect the rest of life and others life too. I hope it will be OK one day :-)</strong> Some pretty deep questions there Mrs. Life(notTom)Cruise(r). Especially when they are related to you.

Here’s what I know about myself: I know I can only control what I do. So, if they’re busy messing up their life, that is their free will to do so. Your choice, however, is to decide how much of it you will allow into your own life. And that is YOUR free will at work.

When I pray, I ask for whatever is in their highest good to take place. Who knows? Perhaps they have a lesson they are to learn through those behaviors. That is not for us to know. So, I ask for whatever is their highest good and then detach from it. A greater intelligence than I can see all and help guide wisely.

Thanks for stopping by Snarkypants! And I hope things work out for you.

Lifecruiser: LOL. Well, it’s possible that’s it, but it’s still very difficult to see the person do this kind if huge mistakes that can effect the rest of life and others life too. I hope it will be OK one day :-)

]]> by: Barb http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5358 Fri, 25 Aug 2006 00:13:44 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5358 All I can say is love them, pray for them, and leave them alone! #'s 1 & 9 usually go together. So does #'s 3 & 6. Someone has a problem, if they have all these characteristics! <strong>Lifecruiser: Yes, big problem. There is more to it of course than you get to know here, I can't write it out because of consideration ot others. But I find it very interesting to read all the answers. So alike my own!</strong> All I can say is love them, pray for them, and leave them alone! #’s 1 & 9 usually go together. So does #’s 3 & 6. Someone has a problem, if they have all these characteristics!

Lifecruiser: Yes, big problem. There is more to it of course than you get to know here, I can’t write it out because of consideration ot others. But I find it very interesting to read all the answers. So alike my own!

]]> by: Cindi http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5357 Thu, 24 Aug 2006 23:56:03 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5357 ABOUT QUESTIONS I HAVE… 1. What do you do with people that lies constantly? First - call them on it. Second - wait for the truth, if it takes forever. Third - Quit asking them questions since the answers aren't trustworthy. 2. What do you do with people that don’t listen? Make lists, enforce the lists, dismiss the person from your realm if he can't listen to the queen, he doesn't need to be part of the kingdom. 3. What do you do with people that’s destroying their lifes? Ummm.... let them learn from their mistakes. If they ask for help, offer. 4. What do you do with people that won’t accept help? Accept that they have to make their own choices, sometimes they make the wrong ones. Luckily, you are not held responsible for that. 5. What do you do with people that don’t have empathy? Point it out to them, over and over. 6. What do you do with people that don’t care? Kill them with kindness and caring. 7. What do you do with people that don’t understand? Understand that not everyone can, or will, or will even try. 8. What do you do with people that don’t fit in anywhere? Make a place for them. 9. What do you do with people that manipulate others? Disassociate from them. And point out to those who stay close to them, that pain is the only result of that relationship. 10. What do you do with people that take advantage? Don't let them. And make sure others know their leanings. 11. What do you do with people playing with feelings? If they are my feelings, call them on it, and put a stop to it. Someone elses, go to the person being injured and hurt and make sure they know what is going on. 12. What do you do with people to stop all this? You can't stop everyone from being offensive to others. Diversity makes the world go round. But you can choose what people are in your life. 13. ♥ I LIVE, ENJOY… LOVE… TO GET THE ANSWERS! Mine are probably different than yours. But hey, I took a shot. C My 13 are up and running <strong>Lifecruiser: I'm really impressed, as of the other answers :-) YEP, many of them is the same as I think myself. They differ a bit only because I have the whole background, which you don't.</strong> ABOUT QUESTIONS I HAVE…

1. What do you do with people that lies constantly? First - call them on it. Second - wait for the truth, if it takes forever. Third - Quit asking them questions since the answers aren’t trustworthy.
2. What do you do with people that don’t listen? Make lists, enforce the lists, dismiss the person from your realm if he can’t listen to the queen, he doesn’t need to be part of the kingdom.
3. What do you do with people that’s destroying their lifes?
Ummm…. let them learn from their mistakes. If they ask for help, offer.
4. What do you do with people that won’t accept help?
Accept that they have to make their own choices, sometimes they make the wrong ones. Luckily, you are not held responsible for that.
5. What do you do with people that don’t have empathy?
Point it out to them, over and over.
6. What do you do with people that don’t care?
Kill them with kindness and caring.
7. What do you do with people that don’t understand?
Understand that not everyone can, or will, or will even try.
8. What do you do with people that don’t fit in anywhere?
Make a place for them.
9. What do you do with people that manipulate others?
Disassociate from them. And point out to those who stay close to them, that pain is the only result of that relationship.
10. What do you do with people that take advantage?
Don’t let them. And make sure others know their leanings.
11. What do you do with people playing with feelings?
If they are my feelings, call them on it, and put a stop to it. Someone elses, go to the person being injured and hurt and make sure they know what is going on.
12. What do you do with people to stop all this?
You can’t stop everyone from being offensive to others. Diversity makes the world go round. But you can choose what people are in your life.
13. ♥ I LIVE, ENJOY… LOVE… TO GET THE ANSWERS!

Mine are probably different than yours. But hey, I took a shot.

C

My 13 are up and running

Lifecruiser: I’m really impressed, as of the other answers :-) YEP, many of them is the same as I think myself. They differ a bit only because I have the whole background, which you don’t.

]]> by: Janet http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5355 Thu, 24 Aug 2006 21:28:29 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5355 You try to help, that's all you can do. <strong>Lifecruiser: Oh, you clever girl, how simple this sounds - and it's true too :-)</strong> You try to help, that’s all you can do.

Lifecruiser: Oh, you clever girl, how simple this sounds - and it’s true too :-)

]]> by: Dane Bramage http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5354 Thu, 24 Aug 2006 21:19:08 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5354 I think eveybody knows someone who fits in at least one of these catagories. It can be very frustrating to deal with. Great questions. My T13 is up at <a href="http://danebramage.blogspot.com/2006/08/thursday-thirteen-8.html" rel="nofollow">Dane Bramage</a> It is the "Quotes and Epigrams" Edition. <strong>Lifecruiser: Yes, it's truly frustrating and make you very very tired :-) I'm off to visit you!</strong> I think eveybody knows someone who fits in at least one of these catagories. It can be very frustrating to deal with. Great questions. My T13 is up at Dane Bramage It is the “Quotes and Epigrams” Edition.

Lifecruiser: Yes, it’s truly frustrating and make you very very tired :-) I’m off to visit you!

]]> by: astrocoz http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5353 Thu, 24 Aug 2006 20:21:35 +0000 http://lifecruiser.org/odditys/2006/08/24/thursday-thirteen-questions/#comment-5353 1. I stop believing them and I let them know that I don't take them with any credibility and if they want it back, they have to earn it. 2. Often repeat myself over and over, but I try to get them to focus and listen by telling them that I am hurt that they aren't taking what I am saying as something valid. 3. Let them make mistakes, because they won't learn unless they do. 4. Help in discreet ways that they may not recognize until after the fact. 5. Kick 'em! J/K, I don't know anyone like that, but I'd try to relate the problem to them by putting them in the person's shoes. 6. That's hard. Its hard to make someone care. 7. Explain it a different way than I had been or have someone else explain for me. 8. Accept them as they are. 9. Ignore their tactics. 10. Refuse to help them anymore and tell them that I don't trust them. 11. Ditto on 10. 12. I just tell them that I really cannot trust them anymore and that they really have to earn that trust back if they want me to be an active person in their life. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, but letting the person know what you think about the situation makes me feel better, because I said something and I didn't sit back and let something happen. I hope things work out for you, its hard dealing with people like that. Anyhow, my TT is up! <strong>Lifecruiser: Usually I do most of these things too, this time it's a bit more complicated, more persons involved, special disabilitys etc. Pheeew. It's a mess, but I'm not alone in this, so I hope we'll manage to rid up the mess at the end. It gonna take time though!</strong> 1. I stop believing them and I let them know that I don’t take them with any credibility and if they want it back, they have to earn it.
2. Often repeat myself over and over, but I try to get them to focus and listen by telling them that I am hurt that they aren’t taking what I am saying as something valid.
3. Let them make mistakes, because they won’t learn unless they do.
4. Help in discreet ways that they may not recognize until after the fact.
5. Kick ‘em! J/K, I don’t know anyone like that, but I’d try to relate the problem to them by putting them in the person’s shoes.
6. That’s hard. Its hard to make someone care.
7. Explain it a different way than I had been or have someone else explain for me.
8. Accept them as they are.
9. Ignore their tactics.
10. Refuse to help them anymore and tell them that I don’t trust them.
11. Ditto on 10.
12. I just tell them that I really cannot trust them anymore and that they really have to earn that trust back if they want me to be an active person in their life. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t, but letting the person know what you think about the situation makes me feel better, because I said something and I didn’t sit back and let something happen.

I hope things work out for you, its hard dealing with people like that.

Anyhow, my TT is up!

Lifecruiser: Usually I do most of these things too, this time it’s a bit more complicated, more persons involved, special disabilitys etc. Pheeew. It’s a mess, but I’m not alone in this, so I hope we’ll manage to rid up the mess at the end. It gonna take time though!

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