“Most people would rather be certain they’re miserable than risk being happy.”
[ Robert Anthony ]
Many times I feel like people actually do choose to be unhappy. They seem to go in to a loop with unhappy feelings, instead of doing the best of the situation and move on. Yes, I know, it’s not always as easy to do as to say… But I really feel like some people don’t even try any more. Or rather a lot of the people don’t try any more.
How come? Have they give up hope? Is it the society we have today? Stressful, no time for anything, not even for feelings or family. Every one is always talking about all their problems, surely they must have something good to tell…? Or is the whole earth now spinning in a negative loop? All the News is just filled with negative news too, they seldom report something positive. There is a lot of positive stuff going on, so why waste our precious short life time on worries or negative things? It’s only we, ourselves, that get damaged.
We can influence our lifes so much, not to every point, but pretty much. It have a lot to do with our own attitudes, just stop and think about it for a moment. You know we’ve a fantastic mind that can do things the scientists don’t even understand all about. Just set your mind to it, we don’t say that it’s easy, but it’s worth it. Confirm that you’re happy and if you’re not – try to change the things that makes you unhappy – or learn to live with it – and be happy. We all have to do that choice, even though our situations can be more or less difficult.
Life has a lot of up and down bumps and the important thing is to not let the down bumps get glued to you – rip it off. You must do it, for your own good. You and noboby else have a responsibility for your own life. It’s like ripping off a patch, it shall be done after proper healing time. It can hurt to rip it off, but it’s temporarily. Don’t let the days, weeks, months, years pass and then regret that you didn’t do anything. Don’t let YOUR LIFE slip through your fingers.
We urge you to put your feets firmly to the ground and say STOP to all negative stuff and start to initiate all the positive thoughts and acts you can instead. Do an inventory of all the good stuff in life – or that could have been worse – and appreciate it. Be grateful for what you have and don’t ogle at other peoples things, lifes or whatever. Decide what it is that make YOU happy and live happily with that – or make up goals to reach it, but be realistic.
Life is a fantastic gift and we ought to take better care of that gift. There is so much good stuff that we take for granted, that is miracles actually. The nature, our body & brain, all living creatures, all the fantastic things that mankind has invented. Even small things. Think about it during a day and try to see things in your life in a different, new view. You may find it less boring than you thought it was.
Your mood can affect not only your day, but others too. If you smile, people tend to smile back at you. There is nothing wrong with a laugh, it’s healthy for both your body and mind. Laugh triggers the release of endorphins, which work as natural pain killers, it’s also beleived to decrease stress-related hormons. We should try it more often than we do, since it never can be overdosed. Worries or happiness – both are contagious.
We’re now giving you the happy plague!
♥ LIVE, ENJOY, LOVE…. LIFE!
Googlism for happy:
happy is the individual who trusts
happy is the person who has someone to blame when things go wrong
happy is the ultimate goal for life
happy is the bride the sun shines on
happy is healthy
happy is cool
happy is more important than ever
happy is your joys
happy is a heart full of friendship
happy is simple
happy is said to be the family which can eat onions together
happy is something you have to learn
happy is to make someone else happy
Googlism for worry:
worry is an illness
worry is a sin
worry is the misuse of your imagination
worry is the darkroom where negatives are developed
worry is to put today’s sunshine behind tomorrow’s clouds
worry is wasted mental energy
worry is not our friend
worry is unreasonable
worry is something you learned to do
worry is unnecessary
worry is a thief
worry is more exhausting than a day of work
worry is one of the heaviest burdens of life
Argentina
Austria
Brazil
Czech Republic
Denmark
England
Finland
France
Germany
Greece
Iceland
Ireland
Italy
Monaco
The Netherlands
Norway
Paraguay
Portugal
Scotland
Slovakia
Spain
Sweden
United States
Problems?? What’s that?? I just got a lot of solutions to find ..*lol*
Life is like a rolercouster… a lot of ups and downs… I think we do need some hard times to be able to really enjoy life and the good times . I know what I’m talking about!!
It seems we were on the same page here. Your post is more positive than mine but it’s just because we approached the thing from different angles. I agree wholeheartedly with all you say. We have so much to be thankful for.
Miss Ass.Lifecruiser:Yes, you would be one of them that really knows about this better than any one else! You’ve done it over and over again…. and you’re still going strong – ALIVE. *shaking my head in disbelief*
Dave:Yes, I thought so too when I read your post, they’re touching the same subject. Liked your post very much. So true, so obvious, but it’s often the obvious that is overlooked for some strange reason….
Of course I’m alive! Like you know..been knocking on heavens door more than once..but..they won’t for some strange reason let me in!!! So.. Here I am…still trying and trying and trying… flying and flying…Just wondering..where am I suppose to land?????
Hrm, dear miss Ass. I suspect that you may be given the answer some day in your Daily horoscopes, since they seem to be so unbeleivable accurate all the time!!!!
I was explaining this to a relative of mine the other night. He was once again whining about all that has happened to him and all he is going through and I didn’t understand because everything always goes my way. I pointed out that the same things happen to everyone, including me, but we just choose not to focus on it, take it out on a regular basis and mull it over. We choose to move on.
And depression gives you a great excuse to not even try to succeed and not have to face failure, which everyone has to face now and then.
I have someone staying here right now who is unhappy. In fact she is unhappier that unhappy. Normally she is unhappy only and that is the norm for her.
I think some people like being unhappy all the time for the attention.
People end up trying to make them happy all the time thus the attention.
My sister in law is the same way with deseases the woman is a walking medical journal..
I think its all about being the focus of attention for mant such people.
Sisiggy:Yes, it sounds like you’re experiencing similar things that we are, so that’s how this post was born. We ought to make them to understand this. Difficult yes…
Walker:Yes, there you have some really good examples of what I meant with the post… But they should be pointed out to what they are doing and instead begin to think of what they could do (and have)….
MrsL, you’re one smart cookie, ain’t ya?
I have this friend who is negative ALL the time. Actually, I’m not sure I can even call her a friend anymore, because her negativity has pushed me away. The funny thing is that when I was first getting to know her, I didn’t notice that side of her. I distinctly remember us laughing so much when we’d go out to dinner that people would actually stop at our table saying they wished they had eating with us instead of their family. I don’t know where that side of her went or how to help her to get it back.
But like you said, I think it’s a choice you have to make yourself. Choose to be happy, and you will be.
Thanks for passing by my blog and for the birthday wishes!
You have an interesting blog too with lots of positive insightful views…
Some folks DO enjoy being miserable and some enjoy it even more when they can bug others about it… not I…
Keep spreadin’ that happy happy joy joy!
Skye:You too… it seems like it’s a lot of us experiencing the same thing here. I’ts a negative loop and they don’t seem to be able to get out of it or even want to get out of it. This is making me even more convinced that we have to begin to tell them about this more honestly. Try to make them to see what they’re doing and what the consequences are. Maybe ask them frankly if they don’t want to be happy and take it up from there.
Veracity:Thanx for your kind words
TN Chick:Yes, they do, but I decided to not let them do that without comments about it from me anymore from now on! I will TRY more to open their eyes for that they only hurting themselves and refusing themselves a LIFE. And that they will wake up someday and regret this…
Yeah, we will keep spreading the happy plague
Great post and I couldn’t agree more. It’s all our choice how we feel. If we’re angry, resentful or feeling a grudge to somebody we’re not affecting anyone except ourselves and we’re stuck in the past. Thinking sad or other wise can be a habit, but we need to shrug it off. A great way of doing this is to think of lots of things we’re grateful for. We can start by being grateful for our eyes to read, our breakfast this morning, the clothes we wear, the friend who helps us, and more and more. The more often we are grateful, the more we attract into our life that makes us grateful again. ‘What we think is what we get’. Another favourite quote of mine is from Albert Einstein. “Your imagination is the preview of life’s coming attractions.” If we think worrying or negative thoughts, that what we attract more of into our life, but if we think happy and grateful thoughts we attract more that makes us happy. It’s self fulfilling.
