Sun
May.28
2006

Mothers Day in Sweden

Mrs Lifecruisers mother Lifelessions

Today it’s Mothers Day here in Sweden and we’ll be occupied visiting my mother. Sadly enough Mr Lifecruisers Mom isn’t with us any longer. I never had the chance of meeting her, but she was a wonderful mother as I can judge from the nice things I’ve heard of her. I know I would have loved her.

Since my mother is very fragile and beaten by life, there isn’t much she can do to make the day pass. She can bearly see anything, so she can’t read or watch TV and her hands is crooked so she is not able to use them any more. Her skeleton is literally falling apart from the inside. She can’t move around by herself, which makes her days pretty difficult, even though she gets a lot of help at the elderly home.

Of course us siblings are visiting her every day too, but obviously we can’t be there all the time. It’s a pity that she need so much special care, because that makes it almost impossible to take her home to one of us. It’s really sad and frustrating. I do hope that we can take her out a little when the weather is better.

The only thing she can do is listen to music. That’s why she is getting CD’s as a gift from us this year. It’s her favorite kind of music - the kind of music she have danced to in her whole life. I think she will be very pleased with these ones, something new to listen to and remembering her dancing days.

In Sweden the tradition of a special Mothers Day wasn’t started until 1919 and it was moved to the last Sunday in May instead of earlier as many other countries do. That’s probably because it’s easier to find fresh flowers to give to her in the end of May, it’s too cold earlier. We’ll see what flowers we can get here today.

A lot of mothers is still getting coffee in their beds in the morning with a cake and is taken out for dinner besides getting flowers. That’s unfortunately not possible any more with my mother. Another really old tradition is to make a drawing to your mother, that was what they did at the old days, but since she hardly can see it I won’t be doing that either.

Her condition is rather pending from day to day, so we’ll see how she is feeling today. What she can manage or not. She has been extra fragile lately.

As a little girl I always thought that my mother was the most beautiful in the whole world. I still do, because no matter that she’s old and having wrinkles now, she still is the most beautiful and caring person.

I deeply admire her enormous strength to survive and laugh despite all her disabilities. There really is no words for her struggle. She has struggled all her life.

Imagine to be in her shoes, not capable to do ANYTHING (and I really mean anything!) on your own - and yet she is so easy to get to laugh. She amazes me. I’m very proud of her.

I’ve helped her writing a blog (see the link in the bottom of this post), because I think it’s very educating to know how life can be when you get old. We can all learn something from older persons if we just listen to what they have to say. They have great wisdom to share.

It’s my mother that have made me to the person I am and I’ll never forget that, she’ll have a special place in my heart for ever.

Mrs Lifecruisers mothers blog Lifelessions

Comments on Mothers Day in Sweden

  • 1
    sisiggy UNITED STATES said:

    A Happy Mother’s Day to your mom!

    Can she follow books on tape or CD? Though sometimes the technology can be confusing for the elderly and eldercard employees aren’t always cooperative about such things. I know it’s frustrating.

    Lifecruiser: Thanks sisiggy. The problem is that it’s difficult to find books on CD that isn’t thrillers or more complicated stuff. She can only manage to listen for a while before getting tired and it’s problem to remember to the next time taking up the reading what was happening before. So it has to be short novels or something and there aren’t much of them to find here.

  • 2

    Very nice tribute to your Mother.
    Happy Mothers Day to her..

    Thanks Happy and Blue 2. She really is worth all I wrote and much more!!!

  • 3

    We’ve had the same problem with books on tape. Old radio shows on tape work better for my Daddy. And old Lawrence Welk shows work well, too!

    Lifecruiser: Yes, If I only could find some similar on swedish to her it would be super. I’m still searching, haven’t give up hope yet :-)

  • 4
    Napfisk BELGIUM said:

    Wow. Impressive post. Thanks.

    Lifecruiser: Thanks Napfisk. It’s my mother that’s really impressive though :-)

  • 5
    Mandy NETHERLANDS said:

    What a lovely tribute to your mother and happy mothers day to her. I hope she enjoyed the CD’s. I’ve just popped over to visit and read a few of her posts. How inspiring :=)

    Lifecruiser: Yes, she really loved the CD’s and started to move her arms and legs (as much as she can) to the music, recognizing the songs in it. Mr Lifecruiser “danced” with her a little too, he is such a sweetie with my Mom, she loves him.

  • 6
    Dave UNITED STATES said:

    What a wonderful post about your Mother. I’m sure she is a very special woman as she seems to have a very special daughter. It’s great Mr. L. feels about her the way he does. Wanda, who has also lost her Mother, has formed a close attachment to mine. It’s a marvelous thing to see.

    Lifecruiser: Thanks Dave. Yes, especially since you hear so many horror stories about mother-in-laws… *lol*

  • 7
    mar SPAIN said:

    Happy Mother’s day to your mom. Very impressive post. She deserves the best, optimism is a beautiful trait. Wish I could say more clever things right now, but you know my English is limited :smile:

    Lifecruiser: Thanks Mar, it’s the thought behind your words that counts :-)

  • 8
    Kelly UNITED STATES said:

    Happy Mother’s Day to your mom. In your post she seems like a wonderful mother. You were lucky to have her growing up and your still lucky to have her. I’m going to check out her blog.

    Lifecruiser: Yes, I know :-) I’m so proud over her.

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